The significance of flirting has greatly increased in the past 2 decades. If you go back in history, you can quickly see the evolution of flirting why it plays an integral part in today's society.
Before the 19th century, relationships were brought together by force. Being single was a sign of laziness. Therefore, people would marry first, then fall in love later. In the 19th century, men and women took control and romantic love became first priority. For quite some time, relationships were mostly found through their school and the average age to marry was around 20. Around the 1950's, all hell broke loose to the system of courtship. Men and women started to pursue college and careers and the need for flirting started to be introduced. Around the 1980's, a man's success started to greatly rely upon his ability to flirt with women. And as the 20th century rolled around, flirting became a crucial part in courtship, and the importance of knowing how to flirt became essential. It is necessary to know how to flirt and to know the latest flirting tips.
For decades after this reform, the man and the woman took on new challenges. Women had to learn how to look sexy and weed out the uninteresting men. Men had to take control and approach the women they wanted. The fear of rejection became very real. Now it's plain to see, that the men that know how to flirt become successful with women and the ones who don't, take whatever they can get.
The first thing you need to know is that flirting is something learned and no one is born with a natural ability to flirt. Every man has had to learn how to do it and you can to.
Flirting is the first step in any intimate relationship. This is what starts the fire and creates the attraction. Most importantly, flirting defines a mans success with women. So let's jump into the top 5 flirting tips for men:
Flirting Tips #1 - Have Physical Connection
You need to start communicating through physical communication. Flirting with physical communication is much more powerful than flirting through verbal communication. The first step, is to touch/grab her hand. I do this by seeing something interesting and then grabbing her hand to get her attention and point it out. Another easy way is if you are in a crowded scene and you move somewhere else, grab her hand and take her there instead of just having her follow. Palm reading also works. When I'm holding her hand, I will gently squeeze it and then toss it away as if she said something that could be offensive in some little way. She will feel that empty void on her hand after that and want to feel it again. You could also playfully slap her hand away if she is grabbing for something.
After you initiate the touch in a safe way, wait for her to touch you back. If she touches you back, then you are set to keep pursuing. If she doesn't, you might want to consider she is not ready for that and you need to back off a little. Most importantly, if she is touching you, then she feels you are a safe man to be with. And finding safe men is one of the most important things to women. This is a touchy subject, and if applied at the right time, you are golden.
Flirting Tips #2 - Leave on a high - get her laughing
The most important part of a conversation is the same as the most important part of a speech, and that is the ending. The way you end and the feeling you give in that ending is what lasts and makes the final imprint about yourself. It's the same thing as molding clay - you can mold clay however you want, but when you leave it, and it dries, that is what you have to remember it by.
For example, if you are planning on meeting up, don't end off saying, "ya we will see you then, bye." You want to end off with her laughing. So instead, say something like, "yeah just try not to embarrass me." or "Don't forget to paint your toe nails." or "This is where you say you can't wait to see me and hope you can keep your hands to yourself."
Flirting Tips #3 - Qualify, Qualify, Qualify
Men have a huge problem with this. When we see a woman we want to puruse, we think selling ourselves is going to make her want us. NO, that doesn't work. In fact it does the opposite and takes away the challenge and her desire to pursue you. Basically, we want what we can't have. So make yourself hard to obtain by qualifying her.
Some ways to qualify is to ask her questions about something she is wearing or something she did or is doing, and then really listen to her response, "That's a cool necklace, did you get it traveling?" Another great flirting tip when qualifying is to turn the tables by taking the role that women like to take, "So are you going to ask me out or what?" or "You didn't just tell me you liked hiking to get me to like you, did you?" Just remember to always give your approval when interacting.
Flirting Tips #4 - Props
This is a very easy one and it works really well for flirting. First understand that women search for tips on flirting with men 3 times more than men do. It's because women want to flirt with men, but wouldn't know what to say if they approached you. If you were to have something (a prop) to talk about, women would feel much more comfortable approaching you. Remember, when you are talking, you can have a set prop that you can use to be flirty instead of having to shoot into the wind all the time.
For instance, you could have a bandana that hangs out of your pocket or a hat that stands out or just a shirt that says something funny. Then, when they ask about the bandana you can say something like, "it was a ruff time in my life I don't think we are good enough friends to talk about this yet" then you can go into some funny story or whatever you want. The most important thing about this flirting tip is that it breaks the ice and gets the conversation rolling.
Flirting Tips #5 - Flirt through texting | Flirting through text messages
Being successful with women is becoming easier and easier for men. Why? Because text messaging and sms text messages have become an integral part in everyday communication. This is a gold mine for men! It gives you time to get the right message (which also improves your real world flirting), and you can interact with more than one woman at once to increase your chances. It's definitely a confidence builder. Most importantly, it cuts out all the attraction triggers that can normally work against you, such as your clothes, smile, breath, hair etc... so all you're left with are words and timing. Flirting has never been so easy!
Once you get the right words at the right time, you can expect a ton of success with women. And since most men fail at flirting in texting, you will stand above the rest, and you'll see a lot of women responding desirably to you.
If you really want to increase your success with women, I would highly suggest getting The Ultimate Texting Guide. You'll discover exactly how to flirt, get more dates, and turn women on to where they are dying to meet up with you. It also shows you over 101 flirty text messages and a bonus section on how to consistently make successful phones calls.
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